Showing posts with label Transition. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Transition. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

For Guidance in Our Calling




The time when we wait for our vicarage assignment or call can be...well, tough. We know that the Lord truly knows our inmost thoughts and desires, but sometimes (we are human - and He knows that) we still worry. All of the unknowns. All of the questions. There is fear. There is excitement. Anxiety. And prayer. 

Philippians 4:4-7 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 

The following is a prayer from the Treasury of Daily Prayer (p. 1,315) that helps keep our focus on Him.  Graphic design is not in my repertoire, but I turned this message into a printable. It is hanging in our home where we can see it and be encouraged. There are two versions you can right-click, save and print for yourselves. (I insert this jpg into a Word document to get it evenly spaced on the page.) Enjoy, friends!

Lord God, You have called Your servants to ventures of which we cannot see the ending, by paths as yet untrodden, through perils unknown. Give us faith to go out with good courage, not knowing where we go but only that Your hand is leading us and Your love supporting us; through Jesus Christ, our Lord.
         

"For Guidance in Our Calling" full size printable in black and white:








"For Guidance in Our Calling" full size printable in color:


Sunday, March 24, 2013

Clump of Grass

The dreams about call day have begun. 
Last night's was that instead of being told where we were going, we were given a clump of grass (dirt still attached). This particular grass was indigenous to a certain region. That was our clue and we had to figure it out from there.







Friday, March 22, 2013

You know you're in seminary when...

(This post is a compilation of sentiments from our own experience as well as others' experiences.)

...your DVD collection suddenly becomes netflix. You told your boxes of movies "toodles" a couple moves ago.

...your CDs have also joined the DVDs in storage and Pandora is your new source of music. (I mean, after so many moves, may as well operate in "camping mode".)

However, despite downsizing the DVDs and CDs, half the moving trailer is filled with boxes of books. Theology books. Lots of them.

...you can cook Brakebush chicken five billion different ways. Yes, five billion different ways.

...until corrected, thought "gemutlechkeit" meant "beer and theology". (It actually means "friendliness". Similar. Kinda.)

...Pinterest boards become your collection of recipes. Goodbye, heavy cookbooks. I don't want to move you one, two, three FOUR times.

...you really really really want to reorganize all of the closets in the house. But...you'll be moving in just a few months, so why bother.

...you've heard the saying "you can do anything for a year".

...there's this awesome local deal on furniture. But...you have no idea what kind of home you'll be moving into next year, so it's a no go.

...you know what time Applebee's closes on Tuesday nights.

...you have countdowns. Multiple ones. One for vicarage assignment day, moving day, call day, moving day...and the baby's due date.

...you pay the large month to month renting fee in the summer as you gear up for the move to vicarage or call.

...Tuesday is grocery shopping day...beginning at 6:30 a.m. because the hubby leaves for class at 7:30 a.m. and the food co op closes before he gets home from class and work.

...a precious new baby is born nearly every week within the seminary community.

...you've got at least one vehicle that needs to begin its funeral plans.

...you long for "home".

...you know which moving boxes you like best. Lowe's or Home Depot? (Lowe's. They have handles.) Or boxes from behind the local grocery store.

...March and April suddenly become the longest months in the whole year.

...you know what "Zap, North Dakota" means.

...you get extremely frustrated when you can't find the end of the packing tape roll. (You know what I'm talking about. This is when you go to the store and buy not one, but two tape dispensers to save your sanity.)

...you've spent hours comparing moving truck rates between four different companies for the best deal. This comparing adventure includes any other discounts the companies may offer including AAA, clergy, Lutheran and student.

...you've had eight different jobs over a course of only four years, simply trying to provide for your family.

...getting a pet is something your family would like to do, but you don't know if vicarage housing would allow pets.

...you have a pet, but your vicarage housing doesn't allow animals. Sad goodbyes.

...you can list the top four popular apartment complexes for seminary families.

...you can list, by memory, all the staffing agencies in Fort Wayne.

...you learn that fog delays do indeed exist.

...you visit the seminary campus on a snowy day. It is breathtakingly beautiful and peaceful. A sight you will always remember.

...you received a much needed check at precisely the right time for the exact needed amount from a generous church. And then, on your knees, you cry tears out of thankfulness and awe of the Lord's providence.

...something that has been on your wish list suddenly shows up at the co op. And then you cry again.

...you've met wonderful friends that become more than that. They become cherished members of the family.

...you experience trials and tears...but the seminary community is there supporting, encouraging and praying for you.

Monday, January 14, 2013

Wait - Where am I?

Wait - where am I?

I've asked myself that a few times lately. For example, I'm in Wal-mart and try to find pretzels. I push my squeaky cart to where I think they'll be...and they're not there. Ohh, that's right. The pretzels are in this area at the other Wal-mart.

Or I'm in Barnes and Noble, turn and walk towards the cafe and expect the bathrooms to be to the right. Nope. Not at this Barnes and Noble - I was confused with a different Barnes and Noble...one in a different state.

Or ponder the idea of visiting the local animal shelter to browse at kitties, I'll just pop on over there after going to Target, because the shelter is just down the road from Target. No, that's in a different city than Fort Wayne. Not here.

Driving down a main road in town I look to my left and recognize a friend. I get excited...but then realize that she is from Chicagoland. She doesn't live here. It's not her. It just looks like her.

When we got home from Christmas vacation I forgot how to operate our bathtub faucet.

Moving every year for the past several years gets confusing.

Maybe someday...someday I'll remember what is where and who lives where.

Saturday, June 16, 2012

It is the Lord who goes before you...

The other day a certain verse in Deuteronomy caught my eye. It's a verse that's found amidst a time of transition in the Old Testament, when Joshua succeeds Moses.  

Moses tells all of Israel, "Be strong and courageous... it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you" (Deut. 31:6).

Then Moses tells Joshua in front of  the Israelites: “Be strong and courageous, for you shall go with this people into the land that the Lord has sworn to their fathers to give them, and you shall put them in possession of it.  It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed” (Deut. 31:7,8).


Note the peace and comfort that is given:
"It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed." Transitions can be tough, whether it be receiving a new leader, switching schools, moving 1,000 miles away for a year or coming back to a certain place in Indiana once called "home." Our Heavenly Father knows that transitions can be difficult, that's why the Israelites were given those sweet words of encouragement. Our Lord knows our hearts and sees our tears. That's why He gives us the comfort and confidence that He is with us, He won't leave us, we needn't fear in what lies ahead because "It is the Lord who goes before you."

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Lately

The past several days have been busy. The days have flown by with family visiting, a lovely baby shower (what a huge blessing!), writing thank you notes for such wonderful baby gifts, fitting in last social engagements before the baby arrives and packing up our home. On Memorial Day we packed quite a few boxes and wrapped three wall hangings (things are beginning to look more and more bare!).

Our lil packing helper has been adding humor to the packing process, which makes wrapping up this chapter of our lives a bit easier. {Saying good-bye is not fun. :-/}




The lil robin babies have hatched!! They hatched middle of last week. They are growing oh so fast, but here is a photo of them when they are brand brand new. :-) Watching the cute lil robin family grow is such a neat experience.

 

Saturday, May 19, 2012

Moving Box Mountain

With baby on the way and our moving date just a couple weeks after, we have been packing as much as possible.

Our mountain of boxes has been growing steadily! It'd be nice to store the boxes in the basement or guest bedroom (not such an eye sore)...but it's easier to keep them in the dining room, which is on the main level. We don't want to wear out our moving helpers by asking them to bring the boxes all the way from the basement or 2nd floor to the moving truck!



Ideally, I'd like to have most everything packed about two weeks before Baby J's due date...just in case he decides to arrive a bit early! Hopefully we're able to accomplish that and live with the essentials until we move in late July.



While we've been packing, another family has been moving in:


This robin family has parked itself on our front door's wreath. We've been trying to use the back door more often because the momma robin gets quite persnickety whenever we use the front door: she will fly off of the nest, sit in a nearby tree, then share with us her dismay by chirping "go away, go away!"

I plan on taking that wreath back to Fort Wayne with us...hopefully Mr. and Mrs. Robin are empty nesters by then. :-)




Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Exciting!

Tonight is the night for vicarage assignments! 

At 7pm est, the vicarage assignment service at Concordia Theological Seminary Fort Waye, IN 
can be watched live here: www.ctsfw.edu

Tomorrow evening at 7pm est, the call placement service can be watched live here: www.ctsfw.edu

{It's hard to believe that just a year ago we were sitting in the chapel at seminary, anxiously awaiting our vicarage assignment...hearts racing, sweaty palms, smiling at our friends who had just received their vicarage assignments...and eagerly awaiting our own assignment. Thankfully, "J" is near the front of the alphabet! ;-)}


Here we are on vicarage assignment day. 
This picture was taken just an hour or two before the service began.



Anywho, back to today and tomorrow's events. Friends, we are so excited for all awaiting their assignments and placements. Our prayers are with your, dear brothers and sisters in Christ!

Thursday, April 26, 2012

This week...

...has been full of planning and organizing for the upcoming transitions: 
Baby J and the move back to Fort Wayne.

Packing.
Freezer meals.
Moving truck quotes.
Doctors in Fort Wayne.
Health insurance for Baby J.
My position's replacement at work.

Speaking of transitions...

Next week is when two very important things will be happening at the seminary: vicarage placement service and call service. I am anxious and excited for all who are eagerly awaiting their assignments!

The constant season of change continues within the seminary as many prepare for their vicarage assignment, their call, or preparing to move back to Fort Wayne for a final year of classes. {Ohhhh transition.}

Amidst all of the busyness, temporariness and for some, loneliness, let us continue to seek the Lord as our Refuge and Strength. Dealing with constant transition can be tough, but  keeping in touch with encouraging friends and family (the Body of Christ!) can make a world of a difference!

Philippians 4:6,7
...do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, 
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

What helps you cope with transition?

Saturday, February 11, 2012

You know you've lived...

...in many places when you're trying to address an envelope:

401 Tangle- ...no, that's not it...
7400 August- ...no...
23227 Double- ohf.
1831 Bayview ....nope, not that either.

...or accidentally write down the wrong zip code. {Yay for extra envelopes!}

...or when you forget what time zone you're living in. For example...planning a phone date with a friend and say, "I'll be available anytime after 10 am central time," and your friend says, "Um. I'm in the central time zone, too, silly!"

...or when you pull open what you thought was the silverware drawer. Nope. The silverware drawer was next to the dishwasher in the other house. 


Seminary life involves many transitions. One of the transitions is constantly moving and living somewhere new. It can be tough living in a constant state of "temporaryness" (but it can be fun too! You get to decorate and organize multiple different homes! ;-)). I recently had a great conversation about with this with a couple great friends:

-Keeping in touch with friends and family can be encouraging, refreshing, and scare off loneliness (remember that phone date story I mentioned?).

-Making your current house/apartment/whatever feel like home is important - make it cozy, make it comfy,  make it  yours.

-Stay grounded in the Lord. There are so many changes but the Lord's promises, faithfulness and providence is always there for us! Hebrews 13:8 "Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever."


Wednesday, August 24, 2011

First Impressions & the Fish Bowl

Definition of first impression:
the initial information received about and impressions formed of an individual, which can be difficult to forget, even when they are contradicted later

Definition of fish bowl
1. a state of affairs in which you have no privacy
2. a transparent bowl in which small fish are kept




As church workers and families of church workers, we are familiar with these terms.  We experience this during field work, vicarage and call. We are being watched from every angle.


There are preconceptions for church workers and their families. These expectations can range from how a child is disciplined, whether the wife works, the pastor's hair style and which vehicles they drive. Most of us are people pleasers. And, naturally, we want to make a good impression. This can be stressful.


Here are a few bits of advice from fellow fish bowl dwellers:


In a new place, sometimes we may draw inward because of shyness, knowing we will be living in a certain place for a short time, or we're afraid of losing further privacy: "Think about what you will miss out on if you don't put forth the effort to get to know people." Embrace where you have been placed and embrace the people.


~~~


We had been here a few weeks and the paper had just published a simple article about us -mostly my husband's education background and from where we originated. That morning I walked into the thrift store and got a "Wait- aren't you from the paper!?" 
Then I went into the grocery store and a little old lady snapped, "Hey! You 'guys' have to eat too?!!!" 
I calmly replied with a smile "Yes! Incredible, Aye?" and she continued "Not only that, but I LOVE it!" she cackled. Yea- it was a cackle.
I felt really uncomfortable. Of course I eat. I'm not a Kranken from the sea. If she did come to that stark realization right then and there I'm thankful she just announced it- because that is an important realization- vicar's/pastor's families ARE human. But- if she was being snarky, I feel feel that's too bad.
I shared this story with you because I think we all are going to have that 1st moment (and 2nd and so on) where we are set back with realization of how powerful these preconceptions are. 
In fact- I have caught MYSELF- a vicar's wife- battling my own preconceptions about these positions. Now you know they must be powerful if I have preconceptions about my own position! HA!


~~~


In my mind I had a vision of how a vicar's wife or pastor's wife is supposed to be. Nearly perfect. (Shouldn't be too hard, right? ;-)) And my mission was to meet and exceed that ideal. Well, just days into vicarage, something I said to the pastor wasn't perceived as I had intended it to be understood. And then it happened again.  I feel like a failure. My stint of feeling like the ideal vicar's wife lasted only a few days. So much for perfection. My enthusiasm deflated as a sense of failure took its place. My husband said with an encouraging smile, "Just be yourself and do your best." Seeking the Lord's forgiveness and guidance, I look onward with a different perspective. There are no cookie cutter vicar's/pastor's wives out there, we're all different and we all have different talents and character traits to offer. We're human, we mess up. And really, from a parishioner's point of view, I think a vicar's wife is be more approachable if I saw that she had imperfections - just like me. :-)


~~~



A woman came up to me after church and said, "Hi, I haven't met you yet. My name is Barbara.* What is your name?" I responded with my name, mentioning that I was the new vicar's wife. Barbara smiled shyly and said, "Ohh, well, I'm just one of the people in the pew." Giving an empathetic smile, I said, "Aren't we all?" She blinked and said with a glowing smile, "Yes, I suppose that's true."
*Name changed for privacy.


~~~


I try to remember advice I was given by a seasoned pastor's wife: "Let them love you".


~~~


I've discovered that there are ALWAYS expectations of the pastor's wife (esp in regards to what the last one did). BUT most parishioners either do recognize that you are a different person or they will after you gently explain that you don't play organ or don't feel comfortable leading LWML, etc. (unless, of course, you do or want to!) A kind word and gentle response from you usually helps to clear up misconceptions best - and just be patient. Also - former pastor's wives can also be pushy about what you should be doing, depending on their personality. (I had adult organ lesson books left here for me as a not so subtle hint that I should learn organ...) And you may find items left behind in the parsonage, like we did. Make your home and your church involvement your own and don't feel bad about it! :) Parishioners love you for who you are, so don't feel like you have to fit a mold of any kind. Just love them back! :)



Dear sisters in Christ, be yourself. Be a God pleaser, not a people pleaser. (When you're a God pleaser, you'll be pleasing the right people anyway.) Reach out to the people of your congregation and let them love you. Bloom where you are planted.


Galatians 1:10 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

John 13:34 ...Love one another...

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Where do I, "Mrs. Vicar", fit in?

Over the past two years in Fort Wayne, Adam has been attending classes. I've been working 40+ hours a week. We were both quite busy and have been in that familiar higher education routine for 6 years.

And now that routine has changed. Adam has begun his full-time+ job as Vicar. And I'm not working full-time, which is an odd feeling.

{So what did I do today, my first day in a long long time without a job? I went to IKEA (surprise, surprise :-) ;-)) and had a "Sarah Day" to chillax after the busy weekend.}

While putting dishes away this afternoon, I thought to myself, Where do I fit in? What am I to do? What is my role? What will this creature of habit's new routine be?

I then remembered a SWA (student wives association) event I attended. The vicar and pastor wives panel event came to mind...this certain get together consisted of questions and answers; the newer wives sought advice, encouragement and direction from the more experienced wives.

Here are some of the things that I remember from this event and I pass these onto you, fellow wives, who, like myself, may need a bit of encouragement as we adjust to our new environment and role.

Your role as wife is to make the house a home, a sanctuary, a place of rest and rejuvenation. 
Support your husband's ministry by supporting him with encouragement, a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on.
His church is your church too. Get involved and join the church family. 
The Lord has placed you and your family in this congregation - trust in Him and His plan. 

Remembering these pieces of advice give me a sense of resolve, encouragement. Thank you to those wives who shared their experiences. Your words lessen the "odd puzzle piece" feeling, for as wives, we too have a vital role in the ministry. We are an important piece of the puzzle.

Jeremiah 29:11  For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." 


Thursday, July 7, 2011

Transition

Dear sisters in Christ, wives of seminary students,


For many seminary families, there are times during the seminary journey when the insecurity of transition can be....well, "uncomfortable."


Summer, after seminarians have received their vicarage assignment or call, is one of those times when hundreds of questions and uncertainties may arise in our minds.  And anxieties of moving away from our dear friends...or them moving...or both of us moving!


Concerns I've heard over the past few summers at sem:


"All my friends left for vicarage! They will be back in a year, but then we'll be leaving for our vicarage....hopefully our paths cross next summer."
"My good friend has moved away...and it's for her husband's call. They won't be coming back to seminary. I may never see her again."
"We move for vicarage in a matter of days and I'll be leaving the friends that are more like family. What if I don't make friends during vicarage.... I'll only be there a year....  w h y  make friends?"



Dear sisters in Christ, this seminary journey is such a great adventure! Yes, it has its sorrows and frustrations, but we are so blessed to have this opportunity and privilege of supporting our husbands through this trek and further the Gospel. The seminary community is rich with support, encouragement and comfort. As Philippians 4:19 reminds us, the Lord will provide.


During this time of transition (and always), let us count our blessings and keep our eyes on Jesus. Close friendships can be maintained (thank you email, Facebook, Skype, texting, phone, etc). Embrace where you have been placed...whether it be at seminary, vicarage, or call. Bloom where you have been planted and trust in His plan - He loves you and will always take care of you, even through the heart-wrenching pain of leaving beloved friends.


Philippians 4:19 "And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus."


Hebrews 12:1,2 "Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God."

Monday, July 4, 2011

Finally in Illinois

Moving day on June 30th went well overall. Despite a leaky tire on the van and the day running behind schedule, our things made it to storage at our vicarage church.
For the month of July, we will be living with family and vacationing. Early August we will be moving to Wheaton for Adam to begin his vicarage. (Many sem students have said that time flies during seminary...it's so true! For two years I've been looking forward to vicarage and it's here already!)
We are thankful for the wonderful support from our family, friends and supporting congregations during this time of transition and always. Thank you!! 

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Next Week!

Hello, dear readers! Sarah here! :-)

The moving date is drawing near {next week!}....cardboard and white walls seem to be the decor of our apartment these days. {Just add some stainless steel side tables, bright red contemporary throw pillows and you've got a modern industrial theme going on.}


A few months ago {Februaryish} I began packing boxes. Some thought this was funny. However, I'm glad I kept packing despite the chuckles because between our work schedules, there isn't a whole lot of time to pack. Today I picked up the last of our boxes to pack (hopefully), bubble wrap should be delivered on Thursday (yay Amazon) and we hope to reach near "camping" status by Sunday evening. You know, paper plates, bare essentials, furniture wrapped and ready to jump into the moving truck. {Er, gently frolicking into the truck, that is...}


Along with packing, another activity we've been involved in lately is couponing. Inspired by TLC's new hit show, we've done some research of our own and have found couponing very worthwhile. If you're interested in saving some mega mullah for your family, check out the following links:






Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Limbo

We have been filling boxes lately - packing up our home of two years into boxes is bittersweet. We worked hard to make our apartment feel like home, a refuge and a cozy place to welcome family and friends. Now it's being taken apart, sorted, wrapped, boxed and labeled.


Bittersweet.


When we unpack these boxes and treasures,  they will be filling a new space (although for only a year). I am looking forward to making our new home a cozy house, warm and welcoming for family and friends (both old and new friends).


The different emotions of transition and overwhelming sense of temporaryness looms in the air. A verse that gives us encouragement and comfort is:


Hebrews 13:8 Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.


Despite the many transitions through the circle of life and journey of an education, the Lord is with us through all of it and His promises never change. Knowing that we are blessed with a wonderful opportunity to further the Lord's kingdom and learn is so exciting and fueling our enthusiasm for this "sweet" chapter: vicarage.


Our cat, Inkin, has been a great source  of comic relief. She has lightened the tough moments during the ongoing assembly  of our moving box mountain. Whether unexpectedly making herself at home in a random basket  or creating a "fort" out of packing paper, we can't help but respond with hearty laughs.







Psalm 46:10 Be still, and know that I am God.



Monday, April 25, 2011

One week!

One week away until the vicarage placement service!

And we're excited to see where the Lord sends us for this year long adventure.

I'm praying for our vicarage congregation as well as all congregations that will be receiving a vicar this year. My prayers are also for the vicars and their families - the vicars and families coming back to Fort Wayne and those leaving Fort Wayne. Transitions can be tough at times but I pray that all continue to look to our Heavenly Father for guidance and peace.

Psalm 29:11
The LORD gives strength to his people; 
   the LORD blesses his people with peac
e.



Toodly doo,
Sarah

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Moving Organization - Box Labels and Moving Checklist

Hello, dear friends!

I am aware that many of you {i.e. seminary families} will be moving soon whether it be to vicarage, back to Fort Wayne, or to your call. Here are a couple handy dandy resources I've come across that I thought I'd pass along.  Happy packing! :-)

Box Labels
Take a peek at this link and read the comments - more helpful info.



Moving Checklist
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